A few months ago, I received a compliment from a friend. She said, "I hope, someday I can be as transparent as you are." It was one of the nicest thing anyone ever said to me. At least that's the way I interpreted it. I try to be authentic in everything I do. I'm not always successful. Sometimes it's easier to conform and play a role just to get through a situation, but I really do make an effort to be genuine and real as much as possible. When I realize that I'm slipping away from my true self, I make a sincere effort to get back on track.
Now this authenticy is not always a welcome personality trait. It's not always pretty, and sometimes I offend and hurt feelings, but I cannot apologize for the honesty. Most of my family and friends know me well enough to know that I will always speak from the heart. They don't ask questions unless they are really prepared for the answer. This is not to say that I'm suggesting being rude or disrespectful. On the contrary. Always speak with love. Honest, love.
Even with the side affects, I still highly recommend living an authentic life. There is an incredible peace that comes with it. You might have to learn to bite your tongue once in a while but it's worth the effort.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Dr. Seuss