Category: Celebrations

  • A Blessed Holy Week to You

    A Blessed Holy Week to You

    While working with the Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults at St. Stanislaus, I was responsible for presenting a commentary each week. In 2020, I compiled all those essays and published them in The Commentary Project.

    The commentary for Palm Sunday was always a favorite. In honor of Holy Week, I am sharing it again here.

    May you have a blessed Holy Week and a Happy Easter Season.

    Palm Sunday of the Lord’s Passion

    At the Procession with Palms – Gospel: Luke 19:28-40

    1st Reading: Isaiah 50: 4-7

    Responsorial Psalm: Psalm 22: 8-9, 17-18, 19-20, 23-24

    2nd Reading: Philippians 2: 6-11

    Gospel: Luke 22: 14-23:56

    This reading is unique among the gospel stories we hear at Mass. Unlike the rest of the gospel, the Passion narrative was told and was recorded in the complete form. The Church continues this tradition by reading the entire account and not breaking it up into smaller pieces.

    Luke’s goal was to continue to portray the life and ministry of Jesus as he had with the earlier stories, a Cliffs Notes version.

    Jesus was the one who healed. (Healing the ear of the High Priest’s servant… and He even healed the relationship between Pilate and Herod.)

    Jesus showed more concern for others than for Himself. (Remember His concern for the disciples and the weeping women.)

    Jesus offered divine love, reconciliation, and forgiveness … even from the cross.

    Jesus is still eating with sinners. His disciples are weak, fighting and unfaithful. And yet, He eagerly desired to share this meal with them before the suffering began. Remember, at this time in the Mediterranean world, the highest compliment you could bestow on a friend was to share a meal with them. The worst thing would be to betray them. Both occurred in this setting.

    The timing of this story is critical. The Feast of the Passover commemorated the Jews’ liberation from slavery. Jesus and the events of this particular Passover became the “New Covenant,” releasing all men from bondage to freedom.

    We enter the week with our eyes on Jesus, A King. Palms were used as a symbol of victory and power since the 2nd century before Christ. This was the scene for a procession of a King to his coronation. In this case, it was a crown of thorns and a throne of a cross. The way to this kingdom is the way of the cross.

    Jesus seems in complete control. He even knows how the owners of the ass will behave when the disciples untie the animal. The most important message to understand is that this is what Jesus came to do.

    “Peace in Heaven and Glory in the Highest.” Phrases familiar to us at Christmas time are meaningless without the cross. The Incarnation finds complete fulfillment in the cross of Jesus.

    I attended Catholic Masses for several years before choosing to convert. I always admired the lectors and thought, if I ever become active in this faith, I would want to do that, too.” (To be honest, I usually criticized them.) I was thrilled when Passion Sunday would come each year; here was my chance to participate. I was asked to speak out loud and proclaim the gospel myself. But at that time, the words I read had no meaning. I was more concerned with keeping up and not losing my place in the book than letting the words sink in.

    “Crucify Him!”

    We’ve all stood unconsciously and innocently with those accusers. Mere words. How naive. They were just words from many years ago spoken by others.

    I wanted to be a part of the drama. There is such vivid emotion from both the powerful and the lowly. It wasn’t until years later that I realized how much a part of the drama I was by the life I chose to live every day. I have played ALL of the roles in this scene:

    I have been Judas… I have been two-faced… sitting with a friend and betraying them when their back is turned.

    I have been Peter… I have denied my association with the Lord for fear of the repercussions.

    I have been the Chief Priests, the Temple Guards, and the Elders when I have mocked Jesus and ridiculed him by my behavior to those whom I am called to love and serve… or sat in judgment of the actions of an innocent man.

    I have been Pilate… doing things I knew were wrong… to keep the peace.

    I have been Herod, passing off the responsibility to someone else.

    I have been Barabbas, reaping the benefits of an unfortunate situation.

    I have been in the crowd… yelling, “Crucify Him!” whether with actual intent to sin or to be part of the crowd.

    I have been the Criminal, reviling Christ and denying his very existence with my conscious effort to turn away from all that I know to be right and true.

    But it is also important to remember:

    I have also been the High Priest’s servant… who has received physical healing.

    I have also been Simon… who was unknowingly part of something monumental that would change my perspective and my life forever.

    I have also been the Daughters of Jerusalem, who have wept over the horrible treatment of the poor and the oppressed and for the treatment of our Lord on that day and I, too, have been warned.

    I have also been the Criminal… the one the Lord promises forgiveness and a place in eternal life.

    I have been the Centurion who has witnessed acts of God and glorified Him in recognition.

    I have also been Joseph; I have buried friends and loved ones.

    I have also been the women, who even in their grief honored and respected the commandment they had been given.

    I can even play Jesus when I choose to do the right thing. Which character from The Passion will you choose to portray in your life?

  • Happy Birthday to Me:

    Happy Birthday to Me:

    Why You Should Schedule, Plan and Execute Your Own Birthday Party

    Extraordinary women surround me in my life. I’ve intentionally cultivated a friend group that challenges and inspires me. I’m always learning from them as we share our life experiences. One of the most inspirational is my friend Vickie.

    Vickie has a brilliant tradition: She plans and executes her own birthday celebration each year. By taking care of the details herself, she ensures the annual observance is what she wants. Here are a few things you can do to make the day special.

    1. Choose a date and clear the schedule.
      Nothing happens until it is scheduled, so pick a day and set aside the time to do whatever you want.
    2. Order your cake.
      Do you have a favorite flavor or maybe a favorite bakery? Make sure you have a special treat that you love.
    3. Make dinner reservations and pick up the check.
      Do you have a favorite restaurant? Do you want company? You get to choose who is invited. Pick a date, make a reservation and pick up the check. Remember, this is your party. You’re worth it.
    4. Buy your own gift.
      This part is optional. We’re old enough not to need anything, but sometimes it’s nice to treat yourself to something you’ve wanted for a while. Now is the time.
    5. Take some time to reflect on the day.
      Spending some time contemplating your life with gratitude may be the biggest reward of this practice.

    I established an annual birthday tradition several years ago. Each year, I schedule a day to eat my favorite snacks while watching my favorite movies, Godfather Part 1 and Godfather Part 2. I will add the recommendations above in the future. The older we get, the more precious the celebrations.

    This concept does not excuse us from celebrating others. Everyone (yes, every one of us) likes attention from those they love. We need to know we are loved and in the thoughts of our friends and family. So, do unto others as you would have done unto you. (Jesus said that.)

    Celebrating yourself isn’t selfish—it’s a powerful act of self-love and appreciation. By taking charge of your own birthday plans, you ensure that the day is meaningful, joyful, and precisely what you want it to be. Whether it’s a simple dinner, a grand celebration, or a quiet day of reflection, you deserve to honor yourself in a way that feels right. So go ahead—schedule, plan, and execute your perfect birthday. You’re worth the celebration!

  • Mr. Optimistic:

    Mr. Optimistic:

    Jameson Earns a Seemingly Unlikely Award

    My grandchildren have thrived at the elementary school they attend. They have been successful at learning, developing relationships and making friends. Chatom Elementary School has been good to them and for them, just like it was to me and their father. So when Sierra and Joey were notified that Jameson would receive an award at an upcoming school assembly, no one was surprised.

    Jameson and Classmate

    There were only two options for that particular month: Student of the Month or the monthly Character Trait of the Month Award. Since the “Character Trait of the Month” was Optimism, we all assumed Jameson would be the student of the month. We believed that optimism was not one of Jameson’s gifts.

    We were wrong.

    When Sierra explained her shock to Jameson’s teacher, Mrs. Redman, she was surprised. She told Sierra that Jameson was the most optimistic student in her class. She indicated that he expresses positive thinking consistently and couldn’t believe Sierra thought otherwise.

    Although Mrs. Redman didn’t initially name the recipient in her presentation, the girl seated next to Jameson pointed to him before the winner was revealed. We listened with pride in our hearts and huge lumps in our throats as Mrs. Redman presented the award. When announced, Jameson walked over to his mother for a big hug before walking down the red carpet to claim his prize.

    Mrs. Redman presents the Optimistic Character Award to Jameson Oliveira

    Jameson’s teacher from last year was moved to tears. She knew, more than most, how far he’d come, and we knew she had a significant influence on his growth and development.

    Jameson’s award was more than just a recognition—it was a powerful lesson for all of us. It reminded us that people, especially children, are constantly growing, evolving, and surprising us in the best ways. Sometimes, the qualities we assume are missing are actually the ones shining the brightest.

    Mr. Optimistic Award

    This experience reinforced the importance of looking beyond our expectations and allowing space for growth. Jameson’s optimism may have been unexpected, but it was always there—waiting for the right moment to be seen. We all witnessed something truly special, thanks to teachers who recognized his potential.

  • 2024 in Review

    2024 in Review

    For many reasons, 2024 was a remarkable year in our family, but the highlight was Steel and Taylor’s wedding in August. We are so grateful for Taylor and her family, who have become dear friends.

    Mr. and Mrs. Steel Rocha
    Wedding Day 2024

    Leroy and I were fortunate to travel extensively this year, including checking off a few Bucket List items. In April, we traveled on a pilgrimage to Poland, Prague, and Germany, highlighted by a visit to Auschwitz. This trip was a dream come true and much better than I anticipated. We traveled with my brother Curtis and his wife, Linda. We also met new (and forever) friends, Stuart and Deb, from the UK.

    In July, we attended the National Eucharistic Congress in Indianapolis, Indiana. We attended daily Mass and heard some of our favorite speakers there, including Fr. Mike Schmitz, Jonathan Roomie, Bishop Robert Barron and Cardinal Timothy Dolan. We were also inspired by speakers who were new to us, including Msgr. James Shea and many others.

    We also had our annual Granny and Grandpa Get-A-Way with the kids. We returned to Angels Camp and spent most of our time in the pool or playing games in the room, which was always their favorite part.

    In 2024, we traveled (together) to Pacific Grove, Europe, Santa Barbara, Klamath Falls, Indianapolis, San Francisco, Angels Camp (with grandkids) and Folsom. Leroy also traveled to Wisconsin, Texas, Seattle, and South Carolina for work, Portland, Oregon, with the football team and still made two hunting trips to Montana for the Elk and Deer hunts.

    My time of watching the grandkids ended in August when Charlotte started school. We still see them regularly, but not on scheduled days. When saying goodbye each time, Jameson wants to know when we’ll see him again.

    Everyone who knows me will say that I love a schedule. My days are filled with daily trips to the gym, weekly lunches with Joan and other friends, monthly Book Club gatherings and Moms’ Dinners (for the last 28 years.) I have been teaching a bit at All Saints University Parish in Turlock (our home parish) with the OCIA and Family Catechesis. I didn’t realize how much I missed doing this over the years, and it’s been nice to do it again with a limited commitment.

    Leroy celebrated fourteen years at Rico, Pfitzer, Pires and Associates and was the “Producer of the Year.” He was also named “Best of 209 for Insurance Agents.” He keeps busy with work and visiting clients but finds time to continue coaching high school football (19 years,) golf and the annual Elk and Deer Hunt trips to Montana.

    We look forward to new adventures and experiences in 2025 and wish you health and happiness in the New Year!

  • Merry Christmas from Leroy and Kelli

    Merry Christmas from Leroy and Kelli

    We wish you a Merry Christmas with peace and prosperity in 2025!

  • The Power of Traditions and Rituals in Strengthening Family Bonds

    The Power of Traditions and Rituals in Strengthening Family Bonds

    In today’s busy world, traditions and rituals help families stay connected. They give us time to be together, share values, and create memories. From monthly family dinners to religious events, these habits make families stronger and closer.

    Why Traditions and Rituals Matter

    Traditions and rituals make family life better by:

    1. Bringing People Together: Sharing activities strengthens relationships.
    2. Teaching Values: Traditions pass down important lessons and heritage.
    3. Creating Memories: Repeating special moments builds happy memories to cherish.

    The Roots of Common Traditions

    Many of today’s common traditions begin in historical Roman Catholic practices and rituals. Often passed down through centuries, these traditions have shaped how families celebrate holidays and milestones. For example:

    • Advent Calendars and Wreaths: Originating from the Roman Catholic observance of Advent, these tools help families prepare spiritually for Christmas.

    Feasts and Festivals: Many cultural holidays, like Mardi Gras, began as Catholic feasts tied to the liturgical calendar, such as the celebration before Lent.

    Easter Eggs: Decorating eggs is rooted in the Catholic tradition of celebrating new life at Easter.

    All Saints’ Day and Halloween: Halloween, or All Hallows’ Eve, was originally a Catholic vigil before All Saints’ Day.

    These practices have evolved but still carry the spirit of their origins, reminding families of their shared history and values.

    Christmas: A Time Full of Traditions

    Christmas is a holiday rich in traditions that bring families together. For Roman Catholics, Advent is the start of the season, marked by lighting candles on an Advent wreath and attending church services. These rituals help families focus on the meaning of Christmas: the birth of Jesus.

    Other favorite Christmas traditions include:

    • Nativity Scenes: Setting up a Nativity scene reminds us of the Holy Family and the true meaning of Christmas.
    • Midnight Mass: Attending this special service brings families together in faith and celebration.
    • Acts of Giving: Many families give back during Christmas, teaching kindness and generosity.
    • Decorating Together: Trimming the tree or baking cookies create joyful shared moments.
    • Rocha Family Traditions: We have created our own special traditions that make the season even more memorable. The importance of these traditions has become even more evident since my daughter-in-law Taylor joined the family. She loves the traditions we’ve developed and cherishes the joy they bring. These include sending Christmas cards to loved ones, building gingerbread houses together, enjoying Eggs Benedict on Christmas morning, and unwrapping pajamas from Santa Claus on Christmas Eve. These simple yet meaningful activities bring joy and strengthen our family bond.

    Starting Your Own Family Traditions

    While old traditions are important, you can also create new ones that fit your family. Over time, a weekly movie night, an annual vacation, or writing thank-you notes during the holidays can become meaningful.

    The key is to keep it simple and consistent. Even small acts, like eating together or celebrating little milestones, can bring families closer and build lasting memories.

    The Gift of Traditions

    Traditions and rituals are gifts that help families stay connected and create lasting joy. Based on faith, culture, or shared interests, these practices build love and unity for generations. By cherishing these moments, families can strengthen their bonds and create memories to treasure forever.

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  • Thirty Seven Years of Love

    Thirty Seven Years of Love

    I tell everyone that being a grandparent is the greatest thing that ever happened to me, but that’s not entirely true. The greatest thing is being loved by Leroy. Walking through these life journeys at his side makes all the difference. Nothing would be possible or the same without him.

    I wish I had known what I was doing when I married Leroy. The truth is that I had no idea what I was getting myself into—I guess no one does. But God knew I needed a stable, kind, and loving man if this would work, and he gave me the best. It took me a while to realize it, but I’ve been counting my blessings for many years.

    We have enjoyed a tremendous year. We accomplished some significant goals and fulfilled lifelong dreams. We’ve traveled together more than ever and loved every minute of it. Leroy has also done quite a bit of solo travel for both work and hunting. He loves these trips, too, and I love that he has the opportunity to go, but I don’t like being home without him. The fact is, I don’t like being anywhere without him.

    We will celebrate our Thirty-Seventh Wedding Anniversary this week. I suppose this post is my annual love letter to my husband. I appreciate him more than ever. In the last few months, I have required more care, and he has risen to the challenge as I knew he would. Marriage can be complicated, but Leroy makes it look effortless and feel easy. I feel loved and cherished. What more could a girl ask for?

  • Charlotte’s Half Birthday

    Charlotte’s Half Birthday

    On August 26, 2024, we celebrated Charlotte’s “Half” Birthday. This tradition started when Jameson turned six months old. Their parents get to plan and execute their actual birthdays, but Granny controls the HALF birthday celebrations. After all, turning four and a half is a big deal when you’re four.

    Charlotte picked out a special dress that morning, knowing she would head to Granny’s after school. Green is still her favorite color, although she does not discriminate against the other colors like she used to. I chose a unicorn theme, and Charlotte was delighted. I recently asked the kids what they were grateful for. Jameson said, “Mom, Dad, Granny and Grandpa.” When I asked Charlotte, her answer was, “Butterflies and unicorns.” This girl knows her own mind.

    The formula for the parties is always the same. There will be balloons, cake or cupcakes, themed paper products and, of course, a gift from Granny and Grandpa. This year, Charlotte received a Minnie Mouse suitcase. She’s been asking for one for a while and could have used it for all her summer sleepovers.

    One of my favorite parts of these events is how excited the sibling is for the other. Jameson couldn’t wait for Charlotte to blow out the candles and open her gift. He asked her, “Do you like your suitcase, Sweetie?”

    This has become one of our favorite family traditions, and the simplicity keeps it easy to replicate and manage.

  • Mr. and Mrs. Steel Rocha

    Mr. and Mrs. Steel Rocha

    On Saturday, August 24th, Steel married the love of his life, Taylor, and we officially (and legally) welcomed her into our family. If there was ever any doubt that God sanctioned this marriage, all we have to do is think about the spectacular weather He sent us that day. A cold front gave us a high of 81°. Heaven rejoiced, and I wore my coat and Uggs at the reception.

    The wedding was held at Taylor’s parents’ home in Patterson, California and attended by family and a few close friends of the couple. They exchanged their vows under beautiful willow trees. Steel and Taylor’s nieces and nephews served as their wedding party. We celebrated with dinner in the backyard as we watched a magnificent sunset. (I can’t wait to see the official photographs.)

    One of my favorite parts of the evening was visiting with Steel’s high school friends. I love these boys, and it was so much fun telling stories and laughing as we reminisced. They were terrific boys, and they are now magnificent men.

    I’ve previously written about watching this fairytale develop; this wedding was a perfect chapter of the love story. I spent a lot of time thinking about my speech but didn’t remember a word of it when I got up to the microphone, so I’ll share it here:

    I’ll never forget the phone call from Steel, telling me he met a girl at a craft fair. It sounded like the beginning of a fairy tale. He gushed on and on about her, and when he was finished, I said, “So, are you on your way to buy a ring?” He was so smitten. Then, when I met her myself, I understood. She was the one.

    Taylor, we’ve been praying for you for a very long time. I knew immediately that you were meant for Steel. We’ve loved you from the beginning. You bravely joined this crazy family, and you fit in immediately. You are the perfect partner for our son and the answer to this mother’s prayers. We love you more.

    Steel – We have always been your biggest fans. For many years, I tried to find the perfect girl for you, but you found her on your own, and the fairy tale came to life. You have always been a source of joy and entertainment to everyone you know, but I have never seen you as happy as you’ve been for the last 12 months. It is true love. I have no doubt you will be an exceptional husband. Your father has been the best example of cherishing a wife, and I know you will follow in his footsteps. Being your parents has been a privilege, and we love you more.

    May God continue to bless you, your marriage and the life and family you will create together.