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  • Commonplace | May

    Commonplace | May

    Minnie the Mouse by Charlotte Oliveira

    “Clarity isn’t about knowing what you want to do with your life, it’s about knowing what you want to do this week.
    You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to know your next step.” – James Clear

    “It’s remarkable how often the real problem is not what happened, but how it was communicated.” – James Clear

    “There are at least 4 types of wealth:
    Financial wealth (money)
    Social wealth (status)
    Time wealth (freedom)
    Physical wealth (health)
    Be wary of jobs that lure you in with 1 and 2, but rob you of 3 and 4.” — James Clear

    “Trust in God, but tie up your camel.”

  • D-Day 80th Anniversary

    D-Day 80th Anniversary

    Some of you might be tired of me talking about our recent trip to Poland, Prague and Germany and World War II history. I’m afraid you’ll have to tolerate it a little longer. I’m still thinking about all we saw and experienced. If anything, this trip has only increased my interest.

    Today is the 80th Anniversary of the Allied Invasion on the beaches of Normandy, France, on D-Day. I’ve been glued to the BBC channel all morning, watching the memorial celebration on Omaha Beach and others throughout Europe. I was especially thrilled to see the mention of the memorial service at the National Memorial Arboretum in Staffordshire, England. This is where my new British friend, Stuart, volunteers each week, and he confirmed (via text message) his attendance today. It made the experience even more personal for me. Stuart and Deb’s friendship was one of the best parts of our trip.

    While in Germany, Leroy and I discussed what it must have been like for the young American GIs thrust into this conflict. I’m sure many of them had never been far from home and were scared to death as they faced it all around them. I can only imagine how it felt to be relocated to these foreign countries, with foreign languages and cultures they did not understand.

    My thoughts went to my Uncle Harold, who fought with the 22nd Infantry Regiment. This is a portion of a letter he sent to his father.

    Uncle Earl, Grandpa and Uncle Harold

    20 April 1945

    Somewhere in Germany

    Dear Dad,

    I have written many things to you since I have been away from home, but this is a special letter, just to you. I don’t know why I had to get away from home to realize how dear to me you are, or to know how much you have done for me. But I do know that my love for you stretches from Germany across the miles of land and sea right into our home, and I want you to know that I shall always love and adore my favorite buddy.

    Don’t worry about me, Father, because anything we have to go through here is worthwhile to us if we can keep our homes from looking like these homes and if we can keep the tragedy and ruin and heartache of war away from our own America.

    It is no wonder they are known as The Greatest Generation. We don’t make them like that anymore. Everyone in the world owes them a debt of gratitude, and the greatest way to show our appreciation is to never forget their sacrifice.

    Today, I express my deepest gratitude to the men and women currently serving in the American and Allied Armed Forces. And for those who came before them, I promise to continue to learn and tell their stories.

    “Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn’t pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same or one day we will spend our sunset years telling our children and our children’s children what it was once like in the United States, where men were free.” – Ronald Reagan

  • Family Update

    Family Update

    Website Update: I’ve switched to a new service for those who receive my blog posts via email. This move enables you to modify your subscription. You can choose which categories to receive and how often. For those who have not subscribed and would like to, click on the link at the bottom of this post.

    It dawned on me that I haven’t posted a family update for a while. As we approach the summer season, I’d like to document where the kids are now because some significant changes are coming in the next few months.

    Sweet Charlotte is eagerly preparing for her first dance recital. She is very excited, and she loves her costume. I have a feeling she’ll be wearing it all summer long. I watch her on Thursdays, but she will start school in August, and “Fursdays with Granny” will end. (Until next summer.)

    Student of the Month

    Jameson the Great just completed his First Grade year. He continues to amaze and inspire me. He is currently practicing military time. He recently received awards for citizenship, perfect attendance and Student of the Month. He is excited about summer and plans on swimming a lot with Granny.

    Steel and Taylor are busy making wedding plans. They recently received their engagement photos, and I can’t decide which is my favorite. Watching them together is a lot of fun, and I am so excited for their future.

    Taylor and Steel

    Sierra and Joey are busy keeping up with their jobs and their children. Sierra recently showed me the color-coordinated calendar she had to create to keep up with everyone’s summer activities.

    Granny and Grandpa

    Leroy has been busy with work and back at Central Catholic with summer football practice, but he still manages to squeeze in a golf game once in a while. Meanwhile, I have been bent over a keyboard for almost a month, transferring my blog to a new host. It was a tedious process. I know just enough about that stuff to get myself in trouble. I’m happy to report that I think it’s finally done, and now I can start playing with the new features.

    Summers have always been bustling times for our family, and that’s a tradition we cherish. These stages of the kids’ lives are precious, and we’re fully aware of their fleeting nature. Making memories is our top priority, and it keeps us going. We’re grateful to have you on this journey with us.

  • Pilgrimage Prayers Answered

    Pilgrimage Prayers Answered

    It’s been almost six weeks since we returned from our trip. The jet lag was killer, and we weren’t home long before we headed out of town again for a few days. I dove head-first into the website transfer project and tried to keep up with our regular events and commitments. But the memories and thoughts of the trip continue to be on my mind. I’ve had some time to process it now, and I think I’m ready to figure it all out by finally writing it down.

    It was a secondary thought to offer to take prayer intentions with us on the trip. I planned on visiting every church we could enter and attending Mass whenever possible. But the idea of taking the prayer intentions with us came to me just before we left. I remembered a young girl asking for prayer intentions when she traveled and was inspired to do the same. I can honestly say that it transformed the entire experience. I felt an overwhelming sense of honor and responsibility after reading the requests as they came in. I am honored that my friends and family would share their longings with me and take responsibility for petitioning on their behalf.

    While we were on the trip, I received a request to pray for a young girl who had been hospitalized with an unknown infection. She was battling for her life. We added her to the list and got busy praying and lighting candles. Our prayers and those of others who know and love her made a difference. She is improving. What a privilege to participate in her healing experience. We’ve all been blessed in the process.

    The stories continue to flow in about other prayers that have been answered.

    — Health and peace for a family in transition.

    — Improved relationship between a mother and daughter

    — Health and progress for a struggling son

    And the list goes on and on.

    In January, I chose the word “prayer” as my focus for the year 2024. Since then, I have expanded my prayer practice and increased my time spent in prayer. I have participated in new prayer techniques and studied the prayer lives of saints. But I have to say, carrying the prayer intentions of others and petitioning on their behalf has been the most transformative prayer practice to date. This experience is another example of the unexpected grace that has filled this pilgrimage.


    By the way, we’re still praying. If you have a request, contact me, and I’ll add it to the list.

  • Less Digital Clutter

    Less Digital Clutter

    If you receive this blog’s weekly newsletter, you know my website has been down for a few weeks while I transferred it to a new host. The wild idea came to me just before leaving for our trip in April. I was looking for the easiest way to post while we were away, and the host of my site at that time didn’t have many options. I almost tried to move it before we left. Thankfully, I didn’t think I had the time because I didn’t. This project was a lot more involved than I anticipated. It seems getting rid of digital clutter is a long, involved process.

    I started my blog in 2008 as a way to easily share the photographs I was taking of kids at high school sporting events. It evolved into a personal blog, and for several years, I posted daily. As of May 1, I had shared 3,008 posts. Averaging out the length of the posts, I’m estimating 1,052,800 words. I guess I had a lot to say.

    Transferring a blog and website is simple: download the content from the old host and upload it to the new one. It sounds easy, right? Well, not so much. Because of the number of posts on my blog, the file was 4x larger than the usual upload. Once we (chat support and I) finally managed to get it all on the new site, the posts looked terrible. There were broken links, displayed code and the photos were all messed up. It was a disaster. The thought of cleaning up each post individually was overwhelming. I cried a little, hyperventilated, ate some chocolate and went to bed. This was a catastrophe. I hardly slept that night.

    But I did sleep, and the sun came up the next day. I had the thought, what if I just started from scratch? That wasn’t unimaginable. It was the easiest way to reduce digital clutter. The most significant writing had already been published in books. Hey Kid and The Commentary Project.

    Transferring the posts since January 1, 2024, and starting fresh wouldn’t be a big deal. Would anyone even notice? Probably not. I even asked my kids if they’ve ever searched for content on my blog. They hadn’t (and neither had I.) Once I started the process, I decided not to bother with the stuff since January 1. (With the exception of the posts from our trip to Poland, Prague and Germany.) Theoretically, I still have access to most of the content if I ever want to pull it. I just can’t imagine that I will.

    So, welcome to the new and improved kellirocha.com – I have some more testing and tweaking to do. (Many of you saw my test posts that accidentally went to the social media channels.) As the site’s content grows, I can add more features. But for now, it’s up and running, and I can get back to the most essential task: writing the next 1,000,000 words.

  • Day 15 | Going Home

    Day 15 | Going Home

    Lufthansa Airline

    The morning came way too early, but getting up to pack and get ready to go home was easy. We talked to both kids via FaceTime before leaving for the airport.

    As a big fan of the movie “Goodfellas,” it is no surprise that I was thrilled to fly on Lufthansa Airlines. We took a big United plane to Frankfurt, but the connecting flights in Germany were on Lufthansa.

    The worst thing about traveling is the traveling. We had reasonably smooth flights to Poland, but this one has been bumpy. I was “pulled aside for additional security” not once but twice. I even had to remove all the food in my purse and carry-on, and if you know me, you’ll know I had a lot of snacks (chocolate) stuffed into every available pocket. And I’ve already written about the German airport staff. Not the friendliest in the world. Then, it was almost a sprint to make our connection in Munich.

    Once on the plane, we were informed that a fuel pump wasn’t working, so it was a 90-minute delay. (At least we didn’t have to change planes.) So a 10+ hour plane ride got a little additional time. We did have a seatmate this time, a German guy in his mid-40s. Right after he sat down (by the window), he apologized and asked to get up again to get his jacket out of his bag in the overhead. He said, “I am whimpy German man,” and those were the only words he said for the next 11 hours.

    As I write this last post, we are stuck in the Friday afternoon traffic from the Bay Area. We might have to stop and get a coffee to stay awake. It was 21 hours ago when we got dressed to leave for the airport. We’re tired, but it sure is good to be home.

  • Day 14 | Berlin and Goodbyes

    Day 14 | Berlin and Goodbyes

    Today is our last full day of tours, and we packed in as much as possible. We took a bus tour through the city and saw many historical places, including Check Point Charlie, The Reichstag Building, Brandenburg Gate and a remnant of the Berlin Wall. We even passed near the location of Hitler’s bunker and suicide. It has a small marker but is now a non-descript gravel parking lot.

    While on the road, our tour guide took us past the memorial to the Murdered Jews of Europe. We didn’t stop, but it was pretty impressive from the street. We asked to be dropped off there after the tour to see more of it. Our British friends, Deb and Stuart, joined us. We walked all around the memorial and even toured the documentation center below. There are no words or photographs to describe this memorial accurately. It is a haunting image to see from the outside, but to walk through it is even more remarkable. The vast blocks look like tombs in a cemetery, but the actual floor level changes, so you are several feet below the tops in many places. When people walk in, it is as if they disappear, which is one of the intentional design elements. There are so many significant elements of this memorial that I cannot describe them all in this blog post. However, perhaps the most impressive thing is that the German citizens paid for it. Our guide pointed out, where else can you find a memorial built by the perpetrator?

    We had lunch with Stuart and Deb and said our sad goodbyes. They have been a big part of our experience on this trip, and we won’t soon forget them. Well, we won’t forget for sure because Stuart and I will be starting a YouTube channel. Stay tuned for more details.

    After a brief rest at the hotel, we set out for the Jüdisches Museum Berlin. I was expecting a Jewish history museum, but it was primarily dedicated to modern art and the Jewish lifestyle. One striking statistic stood out. It would take six years, seven months and 27 days to read the names and life stories of all 6 million victims of the Nazi regime.

    In the evening, we went on our last guided tour of “Berlin at Night.” We started with a traditional German dinner and headed to the Berliner Fernsehturm (a.k.a. The TV Tower) to see the lights. We also made short stops at the Brandenburg Gate and Reichstag Building for more photos. Once back at the hotel, we said goodbyes to our new friends and, Curtis and Linda.

  • Day 13 | Potsdam and Berlin

    Day 13 | Potsdam and Berlin

    Today, we disembarked the ship and traveled to Potsdam, Brandenburg, Germany. This is the location of the 1945 Potsdam Conference, where Joseph Stalin, Winston Churchill and Harry Truman met to negotiate the end of World War II. The palace (built in an English Tudor style) is named Cecilenhof Castle and was the home of the Kingdom of Prussia and the German Empire until the end of World War I. The buildings were impressive, but the scenery was even better.

    We spent some time in Potsdam’s city center and visited Sts. Peter and Paul Catholic Church. The church, completed in 1870, was quite different from the others we’ve seen on this trip. We ate lunch, and Leroy purchased a Weinachtspyramide (German Christmas Pyramid) for me at one of the local shops.

    We then traveled to Sanssouci Palace, built in 1745 as a summer home for King Frederick the Great. It was designed to rival Versailles but is much smaller in size. The name means “without worries” or “carefree,” and its purpose was for relaxation, not a seat of power.

    We then drove into Berlin via Glienicker Brücke, also known to us in the US as the “Bridge of Spies.” This bridge was the border between West Berlin and East Germany and was used to exchange captured spies. I highly recommend it if you haven’t seen the movie by the same name (starring Tom Hanks).

    After checking into the hotel, we walked down the street to explore a little and discovered the ruins of an old church in the middle of the street. It is the Kaiser-Wilhelm Evangelical Church. It was built in the 1890s but was severely damaged in a bombing raid in 1943. They’ve built a new, modern church next door, but it was so ugly that I didn’t even take pictures. You’d think we’d make more beautiful things with modern technology and skills, but we haven’t. We lit several candles for prayers along the way today. (Even in this ugly church.)

    For dinner, we enjoyed the best Chinese food I’ve ever eaten.

  • Day 12 | Wittenberg and Martin Luther

    Day 12 | Wittenberg and Martin Luther

    Today was all about the Protestant Reformation. Wittenberg is where Martin Luther famously nailed his “95 Theses” to the church door. A fire destroyed the original door in 1760, but the bronze-covered door (pictured below) replaced it and displays the theses in Latin. The church, now Lutheran All Saints’ Church, was built on the palace grounds of the duke around 1340. It was (of course) originally a Catholic church, which has been stripped down but still contains the original confessionals. Martin Luther is buried near the front altar.

    Our tour guide explained that Martin was originally a Catholic monk who later married a former Catholic nun. One in our group asked if that was a common practice in the 1500’s. He obviously hadn’t been paying attention. Our guide wasn’t the best person to describe Catholic theology or biblical scenes. In a painting, she named Paul as one of the disciples with Jesus at The Last Supper. (He wasn’t there.) In another painting, she said, “In this image, Abraham was going to kill his son Isaac but killed a sheep instead.” Maybe something got lost in the translation, but there’s more to the story. I’m pretty sure Martin Luther would agree.

    We disembark from the ship tomorrow morning, so we’ve begun the process of our goodbyes to the staff and passengers we’ve met along the way. I’m trying to talk Stuart into starting a YouTube channel with me called “Ask Stuart,” or “Stuart in Steerage,” where Americans can submit their questions about the UK, British people and British life, and Stuart will answer them on video. I think it would be a smashing hit. I’d do anything to hear him talk. He loves to talk and is a great storyteller. We will make it happen. We’ve created a lifelong friendship during this adventure. They have helped make this trip unforgettable.